by Kent Sterling
What was up my ass during Thursday’s Phish show is anyone’s guess. I enjoyed the music, but the pervasive drug use was troubling to me. It made me sad to see so many good people go to such lengths to distance themselves from reality. If that makes me a puritan, that’s fine. I couldn’t get past it to enjoy the experience, and that’s my issue.
As oddly bitter about the first night as I was, I enjoyed the experience that much last night. The people at the show and in the campground were amazingly generous and good-spirited. Despite living only six miles from Deer Creek – no one there called the place Verizon Wireless, which I loved – the campground felt like it was a thousand miles away, and we had gone on vacation with a bunch of strangers, who weren’t strangers for long.
There is nothing better than a great surprise, and after the first night, my expectations for Friday were pretty damn low. That I had an excellent time was a real surprise.
I wrote a post yesterday about the experience of watching the show and audience from the perspective of a parent, and clearly people didn’t much care for that. Writing things that are popular isn’t my aim, which is good because the comments were skewed wildly toward the negative, but people made some salient points in their comments – the best of which was that being around 50,000 drunks at an NFL game is far worse than sharing a night of great music with 20,000 people, many of them stoned.
The many fistfights I’ve seen at or near sporting events have been much more disturbing than anything at the Phish shows. There is a camaraderie in the campground that made it seem silly to pack anything away when we left to go to the show. That anyone would be so callous as to steal was inconceivable. There was a real sense of community there that would be wonderful within the construct of a neighborhood.
Thursday seemed more jazz, and Friday was a really good rock show.
I spent some time talking to a couple of good guys yesterday trying to figure out what I missed on Thursday. Ryan and Josh were generous enough to enlighten me. Their group was so kind to my wife and I that it was incredible. They gave us shade and good conversation, making the experience exceptional for us.
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Drugs are still idiotic to me – an escape from reality that I think represents an unfortunate choice or series of choices, but the people at the show – stoned or not – were filled with enthusiasm and a sense of adventure and trust that are anything but bad to be around.
Those who were tolerant enough of a tight-ass to welcome him taught me something about tolerance. By the way, Phish made both Ryan and Josh’s night by playing “Wilson”. Now I know why.

Jim Hendry can’t open his mouth without showing his uselessness as a shepherd of this foundering franchise. With the highest payroll in the National League and highest average ticket price, Hendry spoke of the future of manager Lou Piniella.
There is a piece in today’s Indy Star by Jeff Rabjohns about how the city of Indianapolis is making it look easy for kids to make it to the NBA. Currently, there are nine former Indy area players in the NBA, and the flow appears unlikely to stop anytime soon.
see that!” Ryan was stunned. The last time Soriano moved runners with a sac bunt, my son was preparing for the July open period basketball tournaments as he was about to become a senior in high school. He’ll graduate from Loyola in 11 months with degrees in finance and sports management, so it’s been a while. The crowd at Wrigley gave Soriano a huge ovation. Cubs fans are so starved for good fundamental and selfless baseball, they applaud successful bunts with the same enthusiasm as home runs.
Life is good. It took some time to get here, but the view from the other side of having your professional identity defined by those you don’t really know is really good. There is a confidence that can only exist when you get to steer the ship for yourself.
There is no better way to lose a college guy than to say, “I can’t wait for you to meet my Mom and Dad.” There is no phrase in the English language that kills a great buzz than that. Laying in a dorm room bed with a semi-hot freshman goes from very comfortable to how the hell do I get out of here in an instant when the hottie mentions the parents. The first time, the guy is caught totally off guard, stares at her in terror, and half screams, “Huh?” Over time, the response become less overtly negative, but it still elicits the same longterm response – run silent, run deep. Total radio silence. Your roommate answers the phone for the next month. You think about switching rooms. You use the peep-hole like the demon child of Jeffrey Dahmer and Ted Bundy is cruising McNutt.
There are countless stories about some guy who is so brilliant that he can roll out of bed without attending a single class or cracking a book, and still ace a test in a subject about which he knows nothing. Of course, this sounds ridiculous and likely is total bullshit, but if there is a guy that Mote knows at Michigan who is roommates with the best friend of a guy at Syracuse who never studies for anything, parties all the time, and is carrying a 3.8 in pre-med, then maybe I’m that smart too. It would be a shame if I didn’t test that possibility. After all, if I’m some kind of savant, but never find out, what a waste of intellect and time that would be.
The drainage issue at the bottom of the hill on North Jordan may have been resolved at some point in the 1990s, but very little made us laugh harder than using the giant puddle that gathered each time there was significant rain to douse the Delta Gamma sisters. There was always a wonderful and priceless look of resignation on the faces of the girls as they saw our car, sometimes filled with as many as eight boobs tired of pretending to study, barreling toward the puddle with the express purpose of violently displacing as much water as possible from the puddle on to the fancy designer duds and backpacks of the uppity sorority broads.
You know the drill. A girl swept up in the joy and revelry of a party meets a guy and hormones drive them into a frenzied night of lust before they pass out together in the guy’s bed a couple doors down from the party. In the morning, the girl awakens and has to walk home. Her makeup is all screwy and she’s still in the fancy party duds from the night before. She knows exactly that everyone she passes is thinking “Look at the whore!” Being a trooper, she gets over it in time to do it all over again the next night.
There have been a multitude of recent reports, or really just one from a guy in Kansas City – a host from 810 WHB in Kansas City. The reports are premature.
An interesting thing happens when you focus your attention on moving in a direction. The first is that you move farther away from being the person you were before you started moving. The second is that you get somewhere else more quickly than when you stood in one place. That sounds elementary as hell – so simple that it barely deserves to be written down.